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كتير من الأهالى عارفين ان مينفعش يضربوا أطفالهم وقادرين انهم يطبقوا ده فعلا بس بيضطروا انهم يعاقبوا أطفالهم على السلوكيات الغلط اللى بيعملوها وللأسف ممكن أساليب العقاب تبقى غلط أو حجم العقاب اللى اختاروه بيقى أكبر بكتير من حجم الخطأ اللى ارتكبه الطفل. 

عشان نقدر اننا نتعامل صح مع ولادنا ونقدر نتوصل لأساليب العقاب الناجحة ونقلل من احتياجنا لاستخدام العقاب , يبقى لازم نسمعلهم ونفهم احتياجاتهم النفسية فى كل مرحلة , نشاركهم يومهم بجد ونحاول الوقت اللى بنقضيه معاهم يبقى فعلا وقت ليه قيمة فى حياتنا وحياتهم Quality Time) ).

ايه تأثير العقاب على الطفل؟ بشكل عام العقاب ممكن يبقى ليه أحد الـتأثيرات دى على الطفل:

1- الطفل بيبقى غضبان زى ما الأم/الأب بيبقوا غضبانين وبيكتم غضبه أو بيتلفظ بيه: "أنا بكره العقاب" 

 2- الطفل بيبقى غضبان زى ما الأم/الأب بيبقوا غضبانين ويبتدى يخرج غضبه بتصرفات جسدية : "أنا حغيظكوا أكتروأعمل كوارث أكتر"

3- الطفل بيبتدى يتجاهل شعو غضب الأم/الأب: "ماشى عاقبونى , هو ده بقى العقاب؟ مش مضايق على فكره"

4- الطفل بيشكك فى قدرة الأم أو الأب على عقابه: " متقدرش ….."

5- الطفل يلوم نفسه : "أنا مكنش المفروض أعمل كده, أنا وحش, أنا مستاهلش ان ماما تحبنى"

6-الطفل يشعر بالذنب ويفهم غلطته: " أنا اتصرفت غلط, مكنش المفروض أعمل كده. طب الأحسن كنت أعمل ايه؟"

من التأثيرات دى نقدر نقول إن أغلب الأحيان الطفل مابيفكرش فى السلوك الغلط اللى عمله وبيكون تركيزه الأكبر فى العقاب وفى الحالة الخامسة مثلاً الطفل بيرتبط بالسلوك الغلط ,بيلوم نفسه عليه وبيفقد ثقته بنفسه . 

هو ممكن العقاب يكون تأثيره ان الطفل يعدل من سلوكه؟

أيوه وده الهدف الرئيسى من العقاب: تبديل السلوك الغلط بسلوك صح وعدم تكرار السلوك الغلط. 

وممكن ميبقاش ده تأثير العقاب لأسباب كتير زى : الطفل ممكن يبقى قاصد يعمل السلوك ده, أو بينتقم, أو لأن رأينا مش مهم بالنسبة له, أو لأنه محدش فهمه ايه المشكلة فى السلوك اللى عمله..... وممكن برضه الطفل يبطل يعمل السلوك الغلط نتيجة لخوف شديد من العقاب أو من رد فعل الأب أو الأم.

وفى الحالة الأخيرة دى منقدرش نقول إن هدفنا اتحقق لأن الطفل بطل يعمل السلوك الغلط بس خايف, معرفش يعبر عن اللى هو عايزه , معرفش يستبدل السلوك ده بسلوك تانى جيد. فعلى المدى القصير الأم /الأب ممكن يشعروا إن أسلوبهم المستخدم مع الطفل نجح لكن مع الوقت المشكلة بتبقى أكبر.

يعنى مثلاً لو طفلى بيضرب أخوه أو أخته , أنا مش بس حبقى عايزاه ميعملش السلوك ده عشان خايف من العقاب , لأ أنا حبقى عاوزاه ميكررش السلوك ده عشان أنا بعلمه المشاركة و الرحمة واحترام الغير وعشان أوصل لده الأحسن انى أشتغل على ممارسة السلوكيات دى أكتر من استخدامى للعقاب على السلوكيات الغلط.

للأسف كتير من الأهالى بيستخدموا العقاب بس لمنع سلوك معين وكل ما الطفل بيعمل سلوك غلط كل ما العقاب ده بيبقى اكبر وساعات كمان بيربطوا سلوكيات الطفل ببعض وبيعاقبوه على كذا سلوك مرة واحدة بدون شرح فالطفل مبيبقاش قادر يستوعب كل ده ولاقادر يربط سلوكياته ببعض زى مااحنا بنعمل فمع الوقت بينسى وبيكرر السلوكيات الغلط تانى.

الحقيقة انه التعظيم أو تضخيم حجم العقاب ده مش حل لأن لو فكرنا شوية حنلاقى انه لو أنا بزود فى عقاب ابنى عشان هو كبر ومينفعش يعمل السلوك الفلانى يبقى أنا حعمل ايه مع ابنى/ بنتى فى مرحلة المراهقة؟ هعاقبهم بايه؟ حختار عقاب كبير قد ايه يعنى؟

 

تعالوا ناخد مثال: الطفل اللى بيرغى فى الفصل

الأسلوب الكلاسيكى اللى بيحصل انه حياخد تعليقات من المدرس ولو السلوك استمر ممكن المدرس يديله قطعة ينقلها أو واجب زيادة. لو هو كبير شوية ممكن العقاب يبقى انه يقعد فى المدرسة وقت اضافى بعد الأوقات الرسمية (وده عقاب بنختاره علشان العقاب للطفل الكبير لازم يبقى أزيد وأكبر لأن العقاب بتاع الصغيرين ده مش هيجيب نتيجة .) وفى الوقت ده بنلاقى الأهالى اتدخلوا وفرضوا عقاب تانى على الطفل "علشان يتعلم".

 طب هو الطفل كده هيتعلم فعلاً؟

- الطفل بيتعلم ان الأشخاص المحيطين بيه مبيقدروهوش

- الطفل بيتعلم ان كلامه مش مهم وملوش قيمة 

- الطفل بيتعلم انه لما مابنسمعش التعليمات بنتعاقب من اللى عنده القدرة انه يعاقبنا 

بس هو كده اتعلم انه يعدل سلوكه وميقعدش يرغى فى الفصل؟؟؟

طب لو احنا اتدخلنا و واتكلمنا مع طفلنا وفهمناه ليه كلامه فى الفصل مع زمايله بيعمل مشكلة للمدرس بتاعه , ولو سألناه محتاج ايه عشان يقدر يفضل مركز مع المدرس مش ده يبقى أحسن من العقاب على السلوك الغلط وخلاص؟

الاستعانة بالطفل نفسه واشراكه فى حل المشكلة أو تعديل السلوك بيطور من مهارات الطفل فى حل المشكلات ووضع حد للسلوكيات الخاطئة وايجاد بدائل ليها.

الكلام مع الطفل ليه تأثير أكبروأقوى من العقاب, شجعى طفلك على التفكير والبحث عن حلول لأن هو ده فعلاً اللى هيكبره وينمى مهاراته ويخليه يكتسب سلوكيات أفضل

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